It’s a rainy morning today and it reminds me of being home in Oregon. The feeling that arises is both of nostalgia and also pensiveness.
This kind of weather used to always depress me; it still does to an extent, but now I appreciate it for a day or two.
It is days like these when I tend to become more reflective and aware of my life.
When do you feel the most reflective? Do you take time out of your life to step back and reassess where you are and where you are going? If you do not, what holds you back from it? If you do, what do you learn from it?
As an introvert, who spends more time in my head than out of it, I may reflect too much. However, it helps me to know myself better so that I can be the best person, friend, lover, teacher, daughter, or whomever I need to be.
Often we fear looking within, especially if we try to compare ourselves with others. We may think we are not good enough or that our struggles are so unique that it makes us better to hold on to them. Sometimes we even let negative energies define us claiming that they are necessary for us to be who we are. I know I have thought this way for a very long time in my life.
Surprisingly, or not so surprisingly, with the help of books like Eckhart Tolle’s _A New Earth_ and _Quiet_ by Susan Cain, I have learned that while our experiences are unique, our feelings and emotions are universal. Everyone has overcome something in their life – big or small. Everyone has felt alone or fears it. Everyone has worries. When we do not admit to these emotions, then we are only denying ourselves and keeping the best of who we are from being.
People, like me, with a heavy past can hold on to the darkness that formed in us to survive our experiences. I learned to push it deep inside and put on a happy face to survive. I pretended that I was a happy person and okay. On sunny days, I had no problems pretending. It was the cloudy and rainy days that caused a great deal of inner turmoil – how was I going to pretend to be happy when even the weather wasn’t? 😉
Over time, with help from friends, family and professionals, I have learned to let go. My reflection time now searches for aspects of my emotions or thoughts where I may not be letting go of the dark pieces or where there is potential for the darkness to return. As I work to stay in the light and surround myself in lightness, I find that the reflection in my mirrored ball begins to change revealing a person who is smiling from deep within.
-The Universal Asian